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It was actually quite funny. I was biking and this man asked me for some cash and gendered me right. So I went over and gave him something and then he suddenly misgendered me when giving thanks.
Last time I misgendered someone? Never in someone's face actually. But I did while talking about someone. Because she was pretransition and always had stubble and would wear a baseball cap backwards. So in person she was clearly a she to me but in my mind's eye I just saw this man and so said he :/ oof
And the photo? Well it's hard to see anything on that photo. I'd say a he from the jawline.
I am currently struggling heavily with depression. Which impacts my quality of sleep. Sleep now has never been a talent of mine. So I generally make up for it by napping. I used to absolutely love it. Both the initial and the waking up (feeling well rested). But lately the waking up part is getting more and more difficult. It...
Have you tried any sleeping meds? Or at least sleeping tea?
Are you familiar with the sleeping cycles? If you wake up during the wrong part you'll feel like trash. You can set an alarm to avoid that. There's also devices that can detect when you fall asleep and then take care of that for you.
Further, how's your sleep hygiene? Ear plugs? Good curtains? Blue light filter on your phone?
It can also help to do a lot of sport. And I mean 2 or 3 times a day. And if your rythm is screwed just skip a night.
Further you'll want focus on reducing anxiety and working on mental health. I can recommend mindfulness.
Have a healthy spiritual life. That is, not be overly busy with myself. To be able to look beyond yourself and see that it's all connected.
A lot of people struggle with their egos and when you have to start facing the fact that it's transient you better be able to leave that behind or it's going to cause a lot of pain. I've seen it plenty of times.
I like wearing ponchos. If you can work a sewing machine then you just need some cloth. You can make them really fancy with fancy cloth and lining. But it's so simple.
This wouldn't work today as, often, craftsmen are paid more and are higher on social ladder than clerks. How would you adjust the criteria for modern-day working class check?
So I joined a new gym last year and was pleasantly surprised. They gave me a smart card to get in and out, that's it, no app, no accounts, no nothing. Well, today I got to the gym and saw the announcement that they are phasing out the access with the smart card and starting to use, you guessed it, an app....
It's Autumn in the Southern hemisphere (Spring time in the Northern hemisphere), and I get fascinated by a lamp post near me that some birds have been using as a hand-me-down for a decade now.
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Follow up on that post about my depression healing plan. Tldr fell back into hole after hrt euphoria, made a plan with all my issues causing anxiety. 3 page long list.
Applied SMART. Looked at it and genuinely asked myself if I wanted to give up or give it another spin. Would be stupid not to given that hrt has had such a massive mental impact and I want to see where this is going.
I've been chipping away at it and feeling progress. I've also been reaching out for help here and there. It has created a few minutes of space here and there but in all honesty I am anxious 24 7. Which is good in a way because before hrt I didn't feel anything at all and it's motivating.
What was rather funny was that I forced myself to go to the cinema and watch Dune and I had a deeply peaceful feeling during that movie, but I also felt a strong anxiety at the same time. I didn't know that was possible!
Tomorrow I'll visit a district help team to see if they can help me writing a letter to get my tax fine forgiven. I might ask my gp to write something to proof that I've been utterly sick before hrt, which got in the way of my responsibilities.
It's gonna take months but I know it'll get rid of my anxiety, giving me space to focus on healing emotionally.
I actually got bucket loads of free time after finishing my studies, I didn't know what to do with it. Like why does everyone always act like students have time? It's a full time job plus you have to do projects and homework.
For most personal projects, hosting on the cloud may be overkill, but tempting with its supposed ease of use and benefits of scale. Self-hosting is often overlooked as a solution with the benefit of simplicity and cost....
I like the Dutch consent form for body donation. You can just checkmark what you’re ok with and what not. I don’t know all the details but I expect that it’ll be used responsibly.
I think we can all agree that that’s an important topic. Why can’t we do that for other, often less important, things too?
Like sure, access my diary if your research is supported by a board but not for security purposes unless you have a warrant.
With so many variations of Lemmy and fediverse instances, are there any defenses against a malicious server running altered code? Is there a way to prove what code is supposed to be running on each instance?
How's your week been?
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What's the most embarrassing thing about you?
What open-source software would you like more people to know about?
AMA I'm a transitioning woman
As far as I'm concerned this is a free speech comment section. Just don't forget the people who might be reading this and the beelaw.
What is freedom?
Half-Life 2: Episode Two - Nikolai Lobzov (2018) oils ( twistedsifter.com )
I'm falling for a long-distance "bad boy trying to turn good" who has PTSD and traumatic family/past, afraid of it possibly being mistake but I'm not ready to let go: What should I do?? Please help!
Please read post for full context and be kind with me. Any help/input will be appreciated!...
Software piracy?
I want to get some paid software, not nessecariky games but general software, any idea on where to look?...
The last time you were misgendered and the last time you misgendered someone else, why?
Asking both questions here. Please don't be too political here, it's a timeless issue and that's the angle I'm asking from....
Man decides it’s just easier to become climate change denier than waste his life washing out food containers ( newsthump.com )
Join the Trans Housing Network matrix room ( matrix.to )
If you are having issues finding housing as a trans person or would like to help others, consider joining this new matrix chat room....
Issues with housing? Come join the new Trans Housing Network matrix room! ( beehaw.org )
I've just opened a new room for this as many people seem to be struggling. Together we can do more. Please crosspost and share!
I have chronic sleeping problems therefore I love(d) taking naps but waking up afterwards is absolute hell. What should I do? **Edit: I have found a short-term solution**
I am currently struggling heavily with depression. Which impacts my quality of sleep. Sleep now has never been a talent of mine. So I generally make up for it by napping. I used to absolutely love it. Both the initial and the waking up (feeling well rested). But lately the waking up part is getting more and more difficult. It...
Helldivers 2 went from one of the most beloved Steam games to one of the most hated pretty quickly ( programming.dev )
Why are many men growing beards again ? ( lemmy.ml )
Yesterday I passed a barbershop and saw ads on their wall outside of men with beards and short hair. It is a revival or saving electricity ?
If you take care of your parents or other elderly, how are you preparing to age gracefully?
cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/859143...
Fashion Friday!
The first friday of every month is Fashion Friday! Give us your favourite fashion tips, tell us what you love wearing, or even post a photo!
Why I Left NixOS for Ubuntu ( fd93.me )
Hey all, thought this might be of interest to some here....
If your hands didn't look working class, the Bolsheviks shot you. What is the modern equivalent?
This wouldn't work today as, often, craftsmen are paid more and are higher on social ladder than clerks. How would you adjust the criteria for modern-day working class check?
Got annoyed by my gym
So I joined a new gym last year and was pleasantly surprised. They gave me a smart card to get in and out, that's it, no app, no accounts, no nothing. Well, today I got to the gym and saw the announcement that they are phasing out the access with the smart card and starting to use, you guessed it, an app....
HRT questions?
Did you have a tipping point between realizing you were trans and you started HRT?...
To date, what do you think is the greatest invention or discovery and why? ( kbin.social )
Mine is the computer. I continue to be amazed at what we can do with them.
What's the most peculiar place you've seen a bird make its nest?
It's Autumn in the Southern hemisphere (Spring time in the Northern hemisphere), and I get fascinated by a lamp post near me that some birds have been using as a hand-me-down for a decade now.
How's your week been?
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Brexit Britain wants to be the snooping capital of the West ( www.politico.eu )
Which are the F-Droid apps everyone should download?
What do you deserve?
Do you deserve free time and freedom? And what about love? ❤️
what u actually signed up for ( lemmy.ml )
The Cloud is Over-engineered, Over-priced (and Over-rated?) ( youtu.be )
For most personal projects, hosting on the cloud may be overkill, but tempting with its supposed ease of use and benefits of scale. Self-hosting is often overlooked as a solution with the benefit of simplicity and cost....
"I want to live forever in AI" ( lemmy.ml )
Paper: Murky Consent: An Approach to the Fictions of Consent in Privacy Law ( papers.ssrn.com )
Abstract...
Signs you're getting old?
My knee still doesn’t feel right after that hiking trip two weeks ago....
Does the fediverse have defense against watering hole attacks? ( en.wikipedia.org )
With so many variations of Lemmy and fediverse instances, are there any defenses against a malicious server running altered code? Is there a way to prove what code is supposed to be running on each instance?