FirstMajesticComet

FirstMajesticComet , 1 month ago

Yeah seems like people always forget about transmascs for some reason.

FirstMajesticComet , 1 month ago

When I was young I was very rebellious and did not follow gender stereotypes, I had long hair and I dyed the ends bright red. People (my teachers) didn’t really like that and they often would tell me I must be a girl because boys don’t do stuff like that. I find that kind of funny because I did a lot of terrible things that according to their sexist logic girls wouldn’t do (like severing my chromebook from their enterprise enrollment (twice with two separate Chromebooks) so I could do what I wanted). Few years later I was diagnosed with an androgen deficiency and I would need to take testosterone or wouldn’t continue developing properly. I didn’t actually take it both because it made me feel sick and also because all the shit my teachers were saying made younger me think I was going on E and it would make me a girl. So I just didn’t take it, and still haven’t, that’s future Riley’s problem.

Years later in 2021 towards the end I learned about Agender and Isogender and those really resonated with me so I started using those but I also never really stopped identifying with male and still very often use he/him pronouns.

FirstMajesticComet , 1 month ago

Defederation evading?

That’s not a thing, people are allowed to be on multiple instances, if they weren’t that would go against the free and open nature of the Fediverse don’t you think?

FirstMajesticComet , 1 month ago

I’m Agender and Isogender, definatey one of the more unique identities and gender modalities.

FirstMajesticComet , 1 month ago

Very interesting, I will definitely look into that so I can do it when it happens.

FirstMajesticComet , 1 month ago

I think it’s harder than to just say they either 100% are trans or 100% aren’t because there are people who identify as neither, as an example I’m Isogender. To say people 100% are is invalidating towards those who identify as neither, and to say they 100% aren’t invalidates those who identify as trans. The real answer is that it’s complicated and dependent on the person.

FirstMajesticComet , 1 month ago

I think the best way of describing isogender is people who don’t feel connection to assigned-gender (the gender designated to them) but also don’t feel trans, the concept of AGAB is irrelevant to their identity and how they identify.

FirstMajesticComet , 1 month ago

I think that Isogender is still different from trans in different ways, even if some trans people have similar feelings of lack of AGAB relevance, Isogender people still aren’t trans because we don’t feel trans acurately describes us, it’s very much a self-identification type of thing, and since trans can have either very fine or very broad (up to all encompassing) definitions there can be a lot of overlap in similarities but they are still different modalities altogether.

Isogender is very rare so there aren’t very many accounts of the experiences of us, I’ve seen a handful of people talking about it but overall I only ever saw a handful of people on Reddit talking about it, and one, maybe two other people on the fediverse who identify as Isogender or one of the other Gender modalities.

I sort of understand the motivation, though - I think the most common meaning of trans I encounter strongly implies social and medical transition (along the lines of “transexual”, meaning people who transition to live as a different gender than they were assigned at birth). Someone who has some alignment with their AGAB might struggle to feel understood if they called themselves trans, for example, and that seems like a motivation for a new term (though I think a lot of people just use non-binary, genderqueer, or gender non-conforming in a case like that).

Yeah it has to do with differences in experience and identities. Even though there has been a lot of effort to expand and broaden ‘trans’ it still very much implies something that doesn’t resonate with a lot of these people, myself included, hence why other modalities exist.

That said, depending on the context trans may or may not have such a narrow definition. I often see it used as big tent umbrella term under which any gender non-conforming people belong, even otherwise cis-gendered and cis-sexual cross-dressers or drag performers. This is especially common among activists who rightfully are aware of the importance of political unity in fighting gender oppression and aligning disparate groups under a common banner.

I see the merit in that but at the same time I’m not really a fan of grouping people under one giant umbrella that also happens to be its own specific thing, i.e. there are trans people who are just trans, binary trans and nothing else. I think recognizing the differences in identities is just as important as the need to unify, and that’s why we added the Q+ to LGBT, for all those people with sexuality and gender identities that don’t necessarily align with the other 4 categories. Maybe to some this comes across as me trying to separate identities from trans, but I’m not, people can identify as trans if they feel its right for them, I just think they also should be able to not if it doesn’t and have that be respected and understood.

FirstMajesticComet , 1 month ago

I don’t have one yet, but I want to get one, they’re so cool. I’d probably either get a classic blue one or a purple one.

FirstMajesticComet , 1 month ago

Nope I’m happy the way I am, I used to be insecure about my appearance and wanted to look more like a real man (I look unusually young and androgynous due to a hormonal/genetic condition) but I don’t really feel that way anymore and am mostly okay with the way I am now.

FirstMajesticComet , 1 month ago

I’m AroAce-Agender, as well as Isogender. Though I also do say I’m a femboy (don’t ask how one can be a femboy without a gender, it’s complicated).

FirstMajesticComet , 1 month ago

Hello I’d love to help out the community, I am currently a mod on !egg_irl and I also have experience modding back on Reddit as well.

FirstMajesticComet , 1 month ago

I don’t think I need to say this but you should not go cracking people’s eggs, it’s misgendering and disrespectful and also violates the Egg prime directive. Respect people as the gender they claim to identify as until they say otherwise.

FirstMajesticComet , 1 month ago

You could try making an account there and DM the admin directly, I think they have open signups, part of the reason they’re such a spam infested hellhole.

FirstMajesticComet , 1 month ago

Fair enough, I wasn’t really suggesting it as long term ownership, more throwaway that could be deleted afterwards but I guess it makes sense if you’re not using javascript that that can’t possibly work.

FirstMajesticComet , 1 month ago

I’d rather have the Adderall than E since I have ADHD.

(I actually do take Adderall for my ADHD)

FirstMajesticComet , 1 month ago

I find it amazing that not only was the original comment not removed but that this person wasn’t banned from blahaj.zone for it.

FirstMajesticComet , 1 month ago

I personally don’t really like Matrix, I only joined it out of necessity and the whole keys things is uncomfortable and unintuitive.

FirstMajesticComet , 1 month ago

oh that’s good, maybe I’ll give it a shot then. Not sure if I can join though since my app is malfunctioning and the key export isn’t working (keys are needed for the blahaj mod chats I’m in since I mod egg_irl and a few other coms here)

FirstMajesticComet , 2 months ago

They’re both cool but I prefer dressing as the first one. I just think it looks cooler.

FirstMajesticComet , 2 months ago

I think both is Bigender.

FirstMajesticComet , 2 months ago

Why are the warm ones framed as “genders” in this? I can see why people might think those who like Cool white would be mentally ill but not what makes the warm white ones ‘gender’.

FirstMajesticComet , 2 months ago

This doesn’t really apply to me since I don’t have too much T, some might argue I don’t have enough (maybe they might be right but I don’t care).

FirstMajesticComet , 2 months ago

or else you will get sick and weak and die.

Hasn’t happened to me yet, I haven’t taken any hormones since I was around 14/15 (for less than about two weeks too) and I’m mostly fine. You may be right though I’ve had people tell me that it’s not good and I should do something about it but knowing me I probably won’t and it’ll be an issue for future Riley to deal with.

Context: have a genetic condition that causes very low androgen levels, not completely depleted but low enough that it’s not much different. I was prescribed T when I was younger but I did not continue taking it because it make me feel sick and lots of other factors I’m not getting into right now.

FirstMajesticComet , 5 months ago

I’m not sure why people think reptiles are slimy, they’re not, their skin feels more leathery or like smooth plastic or vinyl. Hardly what I would call slimy. Amphibians are slimy, which makes sense since amphibians have permeable skin but reptiles have impermeable skin (it’s actually more impermeable than ours) so it stands to reason that to would not feel wet or slimy at all, and they pretty much don’t.

I would disagree though that pythons feel smooth, they do still have that rough reptilian feel, they don’t don’t feel gross though, at least I don’t think so. If you have Herpetophobia you might disagree with my take.

FirstMajesticComet , 5 months ago

Just clean it off afterwards, they don’t have chips in them like today’s smart cables, just clean them off and dry them off and they’ll work just fine afterwards.

FirstMajesticComet , 5 months ago

I know, I love it when people get confused because they can't tell, though I do wish I didn't also look like a kid because it's kinda embarrassing to be asked by someone if my parents know where my parents are because they think I'm 12 or 14. (Should add that's just bc of my genetics, I haven't taken anything to change my appearance).

FirstMajesticComet , 6 months ago

Blahaj.zone isn’t run by the Devs of Lemmy, they could easily block both Lemmygrad and lemmy.ml if they wanted. They just choose not to for some reason.