(TL;DR): I love being terrified, and this has led me to a fascination with imagining being a witness to / a victim of various tragedies. Is that weird?...
I am a sufferer of PTSD from various horrific traumas.
In short: yes. It's weird. You should talk to a professional about it.
If I could take away these debilitating, paralyzing memories and responses my body has formed due to trauma, I would. It prevents me from living a normal life and I suffer from it every day. Even have a note in my charts that lets medical professionals know that my massively elevated heart rate & blood pressure are a trauma/anxiety-response, not an underlying condition.
I guess maybe I'd view your desire as those kids on Tiktok that were mimicking/cosplaying mental illness, autism, & Tourettes syndrome, because they didn't really understand the implications of suffering that a lot of folks who have those things go through.
Again: I'd strongly suggest seeing a professional about this.
Thank you. She's an incredibly talented writer and ridiculously creative, thoughtful, & kind. She was only just starting to live her life independently, and it was ripped away from her with the diagnosis.
We need to advocate for those who struggle to / are unable to do so for themselves.
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Know what tipped me off that Lemmy really doesn't get nuance?
There was an article about a ride-share / taxi company that cateted to women and provided drivers who were also women, to make them feel safer getting a ride.
The comments were absolutely venomous, calling it out as "sexism" and how "what's to stop me from identifying as a woman and calling? They can't refuse me!" which.... fuckin' oof.
But I figured out why they're upset: because they want people to be treated equally instead of acknowledging that some people have different needs that may require extra services to level the playing field.
The number of examples I have seen of people being told to shut up about their lived experiences with sexual abuse in the past 24 hours on this platform is deeply disturbing....
He was an exotic shorthair tabby who was given to a shelter because he didn't look f×cked up enough. He was adopted but the owner got a younger, more playful cat, so they put him on Craigslist where I found him.
His shelter name was "Luigi", but when I saw him, I immediately changed it to "Waluigi". It fit him so perfectly.
He snorted when he got excited and looked angry all the time, despite being the friendliest gremlin you'd ever meet. He loved all creatures of different species and nothing frightened him. He made me laugh every single day.
He stayed away completely from people-food, with two notable exceptions: ranch dressing and Taco Bell. I still don't fully trust either, tbh.
I loved him so much. Still miss him every single day. Not sure I'll ever find such a wonderful cat ever again.
People don't have to give extremely detailed answers (or any answers) about their experience if they don't want to.
I'm just curious about people's thoughts about being single, how they view it, along with if being in a relationship lived up to their expectations compared to being single.
I'm a believer in human connections and sharing experiences. Curiosity drives my need for answers and different points of view.
My orientation also makes it difficult to parse answers based my own point of view, so I posted to get answers from folks who more than likely have had a much different experience.
"Girls desire a knight in shining armor to come sweep them off their feet!" — my pastor
For the longest time, I struggled because I was told all my life what a "woman's purpose" was, and my desires never lined up with that. Felt like a freak because I never desired romance, sex, or partnership with a man (or anyone else, for that matter). If that was my purpose, was I supposed to will myself to want that for myself? Was I doomed to be alone forever? Was I wrong to want to pursue adventure and things that I wanted?
If my desire ≠ God's desire (which was apparently union with a man at some point in the future), then my desires were.. wrong. Maybe/probably even evil.
So I fucked up my life trying to follow that and fit into that mold. I did things I never wanted to do because it was the "right thing" to do in the eyes of God.
After I escaped, I never really recovered. But.. I discovered a lot about myself.
I did bearded dragon rescues & fostering, I got into cosplay, learned how to sew stuffed animals, got some mental health care, rekindled my love for nature.. all by myself. I learned to love me and not base my worth on what other folks believe I should do or how I should behave. I don't have a partner who gets to dictate my personality. I got to grow on my own.
I'm still coming to terms with.. a lot of things about myself, but now I'm able to grow freely instead of being confined to such a small pot.
Don't let people define who or what you are, or what your purpose is in life. Only you get to do that. It's both terrifying and freeing, but you can do this.
Been homeless over 6 years. My social services agency, high turnover. Being female , almost all my case managers have been female, standard practice....
Please be aware that Lemmy is, more often than not, extremely hostile and/or defensive towards female-centric issues or experiences, regardless of validity.
Edit: These downvotes tell me that folks are denying that this is an issue. Maybe y'all should ask / listen to women about what their experience has been discussing female-centric topics on Lemmy.
Most of the female-centric Lemmy communities are now abandoned. I'm sure the hostility did not help that. Don't blame them. I'd never suggest Lemmy as a space for women.
TwoXChromosome is also dead. Witchy-type instances are abandoned, too. It's so sad, because I've had the most lively and supportive conversations in those places.
There is a grave problem with the Lemmy ecosystem system if women do not feel safe / comfortable using it.
Yeah so? Sometimes parents don't have the support they need and want that validation to motivate them. They're exhausted & worn out. Being a parent really wears at you sometimes.
Their crime is needing a little validation? I've seen worse things on the internet.
I’m not unconvinced that R×ddit isn’t completely overtaken by shills & people who have swallowed it, hook, line, and sinker.
Have a critique? See a flaw? Something that bugs you about a product? YOU’RE WRONG, IDIOT!!! EVERYONE LOVES [thing] SO YOU ARE STUPID FOR CRITICIZING IT!!!
Quiets down the detractors. They don’t have a voice.
Quiets down anti-capitalists, politically-motivated folk, logic-minded… you know. People who cause trouble for those with something to sell you.
A lot of Lemmy markets itself as a highly free-speech platform. Which is fine… but I’ve been around the internet enough to know that sites with anonymous free speech attract all kinds of folk who may not have the best of intentions.
Lemmy is far from some kind of online utopia. Make no mistakes about that!
Is it weird that I enjoy imagining being a witness/victim of various tragedies?
(TL;DR): I love being terrified, and this has led me to a fascination with imagining being a witness to / a victim of various tragedies. Is that weird?...
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nuanceposting rule ( lemmy.cafe )
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Could you post a photo of your cat and tell me what makes them so special?
My cat passed away around 2 years ago now. I miss him a lot, but just haven't been financially stable enough to adopt another....
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1st Rule of Mental Health ( lemmy.world )
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How long have you gone without being in a romantic relationship?
How much time have you spent being single?...
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Why are male social workers so different?
Been homeless over 6 years. My social services agency, high turnover. Being female , almost all my case managers have been female, standard practice....
Clowning Around Rule ( lemmy.world )
What is the most well thought out, inoffensive, post you've seen get down voted?
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