LadyAutumn

LadyAutumn , 2 days ago

I think they meant in the context of the founder

LadyAutumn Mod , 3 days ago (edited 3 days ago)

I'm not sure this process is very well understood. There's many different factors that can change sensory experiences like orgasm. Estrogen, in my experience, caused arousal to build slower, and that kind of accompanied a decrease in libido. Progesterone helped a bit with that. I'm also post op though, and I would say surgery changed my experience of orgasm and sexuality a lot more than hormones did. I'd say before surgery it had noticeably changed over the years, but not as much as I thought it might.

How hormone levels affect orgasm isn't well understood. For me, it changed gradually but also accompanied a lot of other changes to my experience of sexuality and I'm not confident to what degree the change was physiological vs. psychological in nature.

I think most people would say within the first 2 years you will experience some change in your experience of orgasm. But to what extent exactly is highly variable and subjective.

LadyAutumn Mod , 5 days ago

I think making a community for trans voice help is a fantastic idea. If such a community is made I would definitely link to it in the sidebar.

LadyAutumn , 7 days ago

What aspect of this story seems constructed or unbelievable to you?

LadyAutumn , 9 days ago

Oil CEOs pay fines for bringing about a global climate catastrophe. Fascist politicians are given slaps on the wrist for an attempted coup d'etat. Government officials openly commit gross violations of privacy and suffer no consequences.

But a guy hacks a university network and downloads a hoard of scientific articles that should have been freely accessible to begin with and he gets 35 years in prison. I'll admit I wasn't familiar with this case before I saw this picture. Which is kind of insane in and of itself.

LadyAutumn , 9 days ago

If he remembers, bless his forgetful little head.

Sadly, if he doesn't, his many fascist benefactors will. The transgender community exists in an existential horror where a genocidal fascist movement slowly builds itself against us, but it's being led by some of the most idiotic repugnant people who have ever lived. One Google search can immediately dismantle 99% of the nonsense they say about us, but it doesn't matter because no one who supports them cares.

LadyAutumn , 10 days ago

The government specifically targeting the well-being of minority children is sickening. Medical decisions rest between a patient and their healthcare professional who, unlike lawmakers, are actually trained to provide that care.

It's hard to quantify the mental toll these endless attacks have on our whole community. Transgender youth have already had to deal with many institutional barriers to accessing hormones and hormone suppressants that save their lives. Now they have to contend not only with constant political attacks against them and a coordinated effort at genociding their entire community, buy also with the state outting them to parents who may abuse them if they find out. Many children are abused at home, a staggering amount actually. Queer children are significantly more likely to suffer abuse in their homes.

These laws are attempts to kill children, to prevent queer children from being allowed to openly be themselves. These children live under constant fear of the state. Their government is actively hostile towards them and their rights. There is a persistent and growing fear amongst everyone in our community that it is only a matter of time before a state decides to force all trans people into conversion therapy and forced internment. These kids know that too. They're not stupid they see what is happening. Genocide is anything but subtle, and the fascists have been declaring their intentions towards us loudly for years now.

LadyAutumn Mod , 11 days ago

Estrogen itself has anti-androgenic properties. It is possible to solely take estrogen as a feminization hormone regimen but the dose has to go up quite a bit.

LadyAutumn , 11 days ago

If we lived in a sane world this would be cause enough for a mass insurrectionary revolution against the state. Fuck every single one of those legislators. They should be prosecuted for crimes against humanity. The things described in that article are crimes against humanity.

LadyAutumn , 11 days ago

How can you control what they use weapons you give them for? Maybe stop giving them any amount of money and weapons

LadyAutumn Mod , 12 days ago

This is subjective but I did no laser or electrolysis before my bottom surgery. My surgeon did electro as part of the operation and I have had no problems over a year out with hair.

As for how to find one, it depends on: how you're paying, if you have insurance coverage, how far you're willing to travel, what your cost limits are, what surgical technique interests you, and what you think about each individual surgeon. Read lots of reviews and email the surgical clinics you're interested in. Ask for costs and information booklets, they have them in abundance I assure you.

For me I didn't pick my surgeon, I just went with the only option I could have covered. And I am very happy with my results. Your insurance company, if you're insured, can give you information about what procedures and what surgeons are covered. There are options for essentially making your insurance cover it, but that's longer than I can go into in this short comment. You also will need two recommendation letters from WPATH certified clinicians, good place to start on getting the surgery is getting those. They also can help with getting some of the costs covered.

Long and short of it, do your research. Read up on forums where trans women talk about their experiences with certain surgeons. Investigate coverage options. And consider your individual needs and finances most of all. Once you're past the initial stage and into the full planning stage, you'll have lots of other work to do. For now I'd focus on making some more concrete plans.

LadyAutumn , 14 days ago

Yeah I was gonna say lmao but I'm also here for the fuck printers bit lol

LadyAutumn , 16 days ago

Well, the US doesn't even have a National curriculum, so I'm willing to be that there are probably many Americans who don't know anything about Kent state.

LadyAutumn , 17 days ago

Yeah I can definitely see how the argument about "original semites" is coming very close to outright hatred and antisemitism. We have to be more conscious of the language we use than that. We shouldn't be making arguments in this vein but instead focusing on anti-colonial arguments. When discussing the colonialism of relocating European Jewish communities to Palestine there's no reason to be using this kind of "race politics" language.

The relationship between Ashkenazi jews and the communities that were already present in Palestine is not something I understand very well, and more broadly the history of Ashkenazi jews as a whole is something I'm only familiar with as it relates to early 20th century European politics. It's something I'd like to do my own research on from reliable sources to better understand how these kinds of arguments feed into genuine hatred of Jewish people.

I'm not as educated on the broader nature of antisemitic arguments as I should be. I appreciate you adding context to why some Jewish students feel unsafe with the discourse going on at the moment. Anti-Zionist action has an obligation to protect Jewish people as much as it has an obligation to protect Muslim people and ethnic Palestinians. Our goals ought to be to separate ourselves from race hierarchy and protect human rights for all. It's critically important that in advocating against the Israeli government and the IDF that we do not tolerate anti-semitism in any form and that we reject the support of ant-semitic people wherever it appears.

LadyAutumn , 18 days ago

Jesus Christ. All over students protesting that their university is openly supporting a regime committing genocide and crimes against humanity.

LadyAutumn Mod , 20 days ago

The terms "fully developed" and "most" are doing some legwork there. Puberty begins and ends at different times for everyone and statistical averages have been shown to change over time.

LadyAutumn Mod , 20 days ago (edited 20 days ago)

Given the specificity of that definition I also would say that 25 would be abnormal for a person assigned male at birth to be undergoing puberty. Most everyone is done the development of secondary sex characteristics by 18 at the latest. But how your body hormonally develops doesn't just stop at some arbitrary point. Your secondary sex characteristics will fluctuate a lot between 20 and 30. Some factors more than others, but I don't think most people would consider their bodies fully developed at 18. I don't have a statistical basis for that, just subjective experience myself and with those around me. My testosterone based puberty was for all intents and purposes done at 16, but my body did go on to change significantly even after that point.

LadyAutumn Mod , 21 days ago (edited 21 days ago)

No. Because you're not a man and your body undergoing testosterone masculinization would deeply hurt you Sky. You need some serious self care. It is a lot that you're spending on hormones too and I'd look into ways that you can save costs a bit. Do you have insurance?

You have some cycles in your thinking that bring you back to these feelings of hopelessness and despair. And I think that you feel overwhelmed a lot, like your dysphoria keeps you very on edge. I think you need to make some lifestyle changes and I think you need to work to deconstruct how you think about yourself and your body.

LadyAutumn Mod , 21 days ago

I'm sorry you've experienced such awful treatment from other people. And it must be horrible not to have had the changes you feel should have happened. Women and girls have every kind facial shape and features imaginable. We all look different. There are loads of women with the same facial features that agonize you. And beyond that point, you yourself are a woman. You do know a girl who looks like you.

If there's a specific way you want to look, a specific aesthetic you want to have, there are ways of achieving that. Many women in society have beauty routines involving hair and skin to look a certain way and to practice good hygiene and self care. I myself am one of those women.

LadyAutumn Mod , 20 days ago

No, most trans women do not just look like men. Trans women present along the full spectrum of masculinity and femininity.

LadyAutumn Mod , 20 days ago

I understand how deeply this affects you. I know this advice has been given to you many times, but these struggles are affecting your mental health. You need a combined approach of lifestyle changes and mental health growth to overcome this.

I used to feel similarly and what helped me was bottom surgery. Dysphoria over my anatomy made it very hard for me to feel authentically me. Not that this is true for you or anyone else. Just that it wasn't my jaw that was the cause at the end of the day, or my brow ridge or my cheekbones or how wide my shoulders are. It was just that I couldn't see anything beyond my own dysphoria.

LadyAutumn Mod , 20 days ago

I was in no way dismissing the reality you live in, or your feelings about your body and your appearance. Only providing my own feelings about my body and my appearance and how those feelings have changed over time.

I have never posted a picture of myself on this platform and I will not be doing that, so I'm not sure how you have seen me.

LadyAutumn Mod , 20 days ago

I haven't added anyone from Lemmy on discord. You must be mistaking me for someone else.

LadyAutumn , 23 days ago (edited 22 days ago)

Yeah. The details are in the article. Officer had his knee on the victims upper back for at least 30 seconds while the victim begged the officer to move as he couldn't breathe. At some point he stopped responding entirely while the officers were holding him. He needed immediate medial attention from the instant he stopped breathing. Instead of helping him officers told him "shut the fuck up you're fine". And only after he had stopped moving for 5 minutes did they check and realize he was dead.

The knee on the upper back position is illegal. The correct thing to do is to have 1 officer hold his shoulders steady and the other hand cuff him. If there's only 1 officer present (which there never should be), there are many other holds that are not life threatening. I think it's entirely fair and legitimate to say that they killed him. It's not libelous, or exaggeration, they killed him and did not seek medical attention when he very clearly stated he wasn't able to breathe. That's manslaughter and negligent homicide at least.

LadyAutumn , 24 days ago

It should be illegal to misrepresent an ad as a post or comment. This exact thing should be against the law. The boundary between advertising and social media is so thin at this point. It has to stop. It's dangerous for consumers. Corporations should have to clearly label themselves at every turn. The usage of AI to intermingle advertising and social media should be blanket illegal.

LadyAutumn , 26 days ago (edited 26 days ago)

It’s very nitpicky of me, but towards the end of the article, they discussed various factors hypothetisized to “cause transgender identity,” and I hate that framing. Being trans doesn’t need a root cause to justify treating us with respect and affording us human rights and access to health care that improves our lives. Nothing made me a woman. It’s just who I am.

LadyAutumn , 26 days ago

I agree with them, very much so. There is no benefit to this kind of research because it’s based on a false premise to begin with. Gender does not correlate with biology at all. It’s part of who we are as people. There is no cause of transgender identity, and even attempting to find one is flawed. The transgender experience is not universal, and there is a vast amount of differing feelings and experiences amongst even just binary trans people. Any attempts to find a “cause” are really just attempts to find new justifications for gatekeeping trans people or subjecting trans people to conversion therapy.

I am, by and large, against the further reduction of trans experience to a medical one. We aren’t diseased. We are fortunate to live in a time where we can access care that improves our lives tremendously. There is a very real medical component to treating dysphoria. But being transgender is not a disease.

LadyAutumn , 26 days ago

It’s not knowledge, though. It’s assuming an outcome “there is a reason transgender people are transgender” and then attempting to match different things to that outcome. It’s based on the incorrect belief that gender is rooted in biology and that, therefore, any trans person must be biologically broken in some way to identify the way we do. A simple glance at the vast array of different transgender people with many different and distinct experiences is evidence that there is no root cause. That being trans is just who we are.

LadyAutumn , 25 days ago

But transgender isn’t an outcome, you’re still not understanding. Transgender people are not fundamentally different from any other group of people. We just are transgender. Some of us don’t even have dysphoria or seek out medical transition. The cause is entirely relativistic and unique to each transgender person.

Transgender isn’t a property of a person it is a description of their relationship with the gender society assigned them.

LadyAutumn , 25 days ago

It’s not so much a mentality as it is objectively the truth though. Advocating for a genetically immutable cause for queerness does not do anything long term towards acceptance. We can see that in the modern wave of transphobia and homophobia. Arguing that we don’t have a choice to be this way is also fundamentally different from “we don’t have a choice because we have genetic abnormalities, or because we were abused as children”. We are the way we are and we deserve respect and human dignity. We deserve autonomy and access to healthcare that improves our lives. People who disagree with those things are not going to be swayed by patently false “cause and effect” arguments. The medical science shows that giving us access to gender affirming medical care when we went it shows massive improvements in our well-being and in our long term health. The science surrounding our care is entirely detached from any kind of malformed research into a reason why we are this way.

LadyAutumn , 25 days ago

Trans people are not a phenomenon examinable in the same way as the laws of physics or observations about the natural world.

Gender is socially constructed. It’s a thing humans came up with. That doesn’t mean that it’s not real, but it does mean that how we examine it is entirely independent of biology. I don’t know why I am transgender. It’s perfectly possible as a child I just decided I wanted to be a girl and here we are. Does it matter whatsoever? Does it change literally anything? What if it’s not true, what if I just decided one day as an adult? Just woke up and thought hey I’d like to transition because that sounds fun and I want to. Am I still transgender? What about agender people, or people who withdraw from gender entirely and refuse to participate in it? Are they the way they are for a reason?

Why do you like the color blue? Why do you hate the taste of certain foods and love others? Why is your favorite book your favorite book? Is there a scientific reason for those things? Can we scientifically examine why your favorite book is your favorite book and then create a theory that whatever we came up with causes people to have that book as a favorite book? Gender is an abstract concept not routed in anything biological. It appropriates biology to justify its own existence. But it is not biology.

Being LGBT has no cause. We come up with our own personal explanations for it. I personally do not and never will. I dont give a shit and am aware that any explanation I come up with is ridiculous and unfounded because being trans isn’t anything specific. This view that transness is some kind of intrinsic property is not true and is not founded in any observable evidence.

You may want to look into trans people some time. Read some shit on google. You don’t seem to really get it, and I’m adverse to having someone repeatedly tell me I’m wrong about something I have personal experience with.

LadyAutumn , 25 days ago

What are you talking about? It is not my fault that they are bigoted towards me. There is no reason I am the way I am, I simply am a transgender woman. I shouldn’t be subjected to bigotry because discrimination is wrong. Like, youre asking me to pretend something is true because you claim that pretending that thing is true will appeal to bigots.

LadyAutumn , 25 days ago

There will be exactly the same amount of queer people. They just will have been subjected to even more gatekeeping and conversion therapy because it was believed that by genetically altering them they would not be queer. Which isn’t true, being queer is not a product of genetics.

LadyAutumn , 25 days ago

Idk why the fuck youre talking about religion. Never mentioned anything supernatural whatsoever. It’s amazing to me how you are so blown away by the concept of gender, that you think we must be describing something supernatural. I am not religious, never thought that would have to be said in this conversation lmao.

Whats your fav book? Scientifically explain to me why that book has the property “afraid_of_zombies” favorite book. Gender has a much larger impact on our lives than that property, but it is still an abstract property detached from biology in any way.

LadyAutumn , 25 days ago

Aborting babies that have the gene? Or otherwise altering the genetics of embryos prior to development? You can use inference you know.

LadyAutumn , 25 days ago

Nice that you haven’t actually responded in any material way to anything I’ve said, and have instead resorted to stomping your feet and having a tantrum claiming that I’m making supernatural arguments without even bothering to explain how I’m doing that.

You need to research these things before getting yourself into pointless arguments with people who are more informed than you about them. I transitioned nearly a decade ago. I have been a part of trans discourse essentially from the very beginning. I am also a student in psychology. Human cognition does not work the way you seem to think it does.

LadyAutumn , 25 days ago (edited 25 days ago)

It’s not a bet it is you misunderstanding what being transgender is. Human cognition does not work that way. How we perceive ourselves is not attributable to definite factors. It’s coming up with an answer, that being trans is a product of biology or some early childhood environmental factor, and then working backwards in an attempt to discover what those things are. But being trans is not a product of those things.

There are scarcely any universal commonalities amongst trans people, and all of them have to do with how cisgender people and cisheteronormative society treats us. Some of us feel dysphoria and need hormone therapy and surgeries, some don’t. Some feel like they’ve known their whole lives, some were perfectly fine until 2 months ago. Some people don’t change much at all through transition, purely changing terminology and internal identity. Some people leave everything behind and become very different people after.

Gender variance is a part of human expression. Gender is an abstract concept that humans created. It’s come to impact so many aspects of our lives but it is still a concept we made up and attached to reproductive biology. We would thusly need to examine why cisgender people identify as their gender and come up with some scientific reason why someone has a gender at all. As though Gender is a product of some scientifically measurable process. It isn’t. It’s a part of someone’s personality. How and where it forms is different for everyone. Someone isn’t “not transgender” because they don’t fit some specific circumstances, being trans is purely an observation of the relationship someone has with their assigned gender. Someone is transgender if they do not identify with the Gender they were assigned at birth. Someone is cisgender if they do identify with the Gender they were assigned at birth.

LadyAutumn , 26 days ago

Lot of people in this thread who don’t seem to understand what sexual exploitation is. I’ve argued about this exact subject on threads like this before.

It is absolutely horrifying that someone you know could take your likeness and render it into a form for their own sexual gratification. It doesn’t matter that it’s ai rendered. The base image is still you, the face in the image is still your face, and you are still the object being sexualized. I can’t describe how disgusting that is. If you do not see the problem in that I don’t know what to tell you. This will be used on images of normal non-famous women. It will be used on pictures from the social media profiles of teenage girls. These ads were on a platform with millions of personal accounts of women and girls. It’s sickening. There is no consent involved here. It’s non-consensual pornography.

LadyAutumn Mod , 1 month ago

This refers to DIY hormone replacement therapy. Purchasing hormones directly from suppliers when health care systems are not able or willing to provide them.

LadyAutumn Mod , 1 month ago (edited 1 month ago)

Note to everyone seeing this post on all and unfamiliar with transgender rights and terminology.

Please read the sidebar. Comments breaking any rules will be removed. Transphobia will be banned. Gatekepping will be banned. This community is supportive of those taking DIY hormone replacement therapy.

If you have questions about DIY HRT, otherwise known as HRT without a doctors prescription, please direct your inquiries to Google. This community is a safe space for transfeminine people.

LadyAutumn Mod , 1 month ago

They’ve posted articles against banning transgender conversion therapy, their chief lead writer is an outspoken TERF, they’ve posted articles for years now calling trans women threats to cisgender lesbians, and many more examples than that.

The article you linked does indeed seem to be a relatively trans supportive article. The guardian is internally divided on issues of transgender rights and acceptance, and occasionally trans positive articles are published there. The organization is not trustworthy, however, and has been actively hostile to trans rights, unfortunately.

LadyAutumn , 1 month ago

They said this about TV. And game consoles. And computers. And every social media website. They said this about movies when they first came out too.

Social media is a reality of the world. This ban isn’t getting rid of that, just banning one specific platform. Why is Intagram Reels acceptable but Tik Tok isn’t? Because ones is owned by a Chinese company and the other isn’t. That’s all this ban is about. Literally nothing else.

LadyAutumn , 1 month ago

I have literally never seen a single pro CCP tik tok. Been using it for several years daily. Not that they don’t exist, but if you’re not looking for them it certainly does not direct you to them.

LadyAutumn , 1 month ago

I appreciate that you’re saying what you think is right, and if we didn’t live in the nuclear age, you might be. But Russia could mass murder a significant proportion of the world with the nuclear arsenal they alone have. Even considering old and failing bombs, they still have more than enough. 2 sub megaton bombs was all it took to kill almost 200 thousand people between Hiroshima and Nagasaki. What can be done with the arsenal that exists is considerably larger than that.

Or are you saying that you trust Russia not to use their nuclear arsenal? Do you trust America not to use its nuclear arsenal?

Do we need to do a community re-watch of threads? Why is it that you are seemingly unconcerned about a broader conflict between 2 nations with vast nuclear reserves, both of which are in constant political turmoil and one of which is actively a dictatorship?

World War is not what this planet needs right now, and any considerations for how to approach this conflict must continue with a shared goal of no nuclear Armageddon and no global warfare.

LadyAutumn , 1 month ago

I was moreso responding to the other commenter saying “so what if we start a larger conflict”. I’m not saying to do nothing, but that preventing a nuclear world war has to be a serious consideration in any actions taken by anyone.

LadyAutumn , 1 month ago

I’m aware of what mutually assured destruction is.

Putin alone controls whether they would use them. No one else. Do you trust in him to value human life?

LadyAutumn , 1 month ago

I’m not a troll, I just have extremely little faith in dictators to abide by rules they are 100% capable of overruling. There are 3 chegets, which were once physical briefcases but now might not be. The president of Russia has one, the minister of defense, and the chief of the General staff. It is not publicly available information whether or not a majority of the chegets need to be activated in order to activate the strategic nuclear forces system. It is assumed this is the case.

The minister of defense is probably Putin’s closest confidant and extremely unlikely to defy him. He has stated the use of nuclear weapons is limited to “extraordinary circumstances”. But I think that outright war with America would probably bring along plenty of “extraordinary circumstances”. The chief of the general staff is also a very close person to Putin and does not seem to have made many public comments on the use of nuclear weapons.

I do not have faith in those 3 men to act in the best interests of humanity.

LadyAutumn , 1 month ago

If enough people want something it’ll happen… how? Like no seriously how? Is there some reason that the people shouldn’t be allowed to directly vote on things? Are you saying that elected officials are reliable in implementing the needs of their constituents? Why is politics so contentious then?