I was born, raised, and currently live in Florida. The guavas in Florida supermarkets are closer-tasting to plastic than the guavas I've had in the Caribbean.
The defence secretary said 22 ships are "already in the system" and committed to three new ships for the Royal Marines, with the possibility of three more....
Not so weird to me or most Cubans, but prolly to the rest of the world: malta with a spoonful or two of sweetened and condensed milk. Pour the malta into a glass, then add the milk and stir until evenly mixed. Drink. If you're not used to the flavor of malta, this combo may be too much to start off with.
The reason why I think obesity is morally wrong and should be illegal is because obesity is putting up a big burden on our health care system. There are alot of nurses who get injured on the job because they had to move a 300lb morbidly obese person to the other room. Which is morally wrong because they're injurying nurses...
It's practically "illegal" to be obese in the US Marine Corps. Those that don't meet the requirements, get put on a special training program, generally have informal extra duties, are prevented from being promoted, lose opportunities for nice billets & duty stations, and can eventually get kicked out.
Reqs were based on height to weight ratio. Of someone exceeded the reqs, then they could request one of those pinch tests. The 2nd option was mostly used by those that had a lot of muscle mass yet little fat.
I can see the Multipla being uglier than the Cybertruck because it looks like two differently-sized cars spliced together. However, there is no way I agree the PT Cruiser, Chevy SSR, and Aztec are uglier than the Cybertruck. Look at the Cybertruck again. It looks like a 10 year-old drew a truck on MS Paint using a mouse.
I recently started watching Narcos about a week ago, and this is the first time I realize that the guy in this meme is the portrayal of Pablo Escobar 😮😋
White men are most likely to lead the largest, best-funded nonprofits, while women of color tend to lead the organizations with the fewest financial resources, according to a study from the nonprofit data research organization Candid....
I'm working on a side project studying variations in human facial features. It's been helpful to study celebrity faces because it's easy to find numerous reference photos. I've actually got a fairly good range of weird looking white men, turns out Hollywood is pretty flush with those, but it's been harder to find unique looking...
I've been using one of the Pandora services, but I've been getting a little annoyed with the stations (which I presume I would get the same annoyance from other services, too). So I'd like to be able to create a station and add songs that I own and that wouldn't normally be in that station. (And I know you can add artists to the...
better make it one of those Voodoo Rangers with their wine level alcohol percentage. a 6 pack of those will kick my butt for the rest of the day before I even realize it. I'll be like, "Hmm. This beer is pretty good despite it being fruity." ...5 mins later... "Omg, why am I so drunk? I need to go to bed." ...next morning... "What happened?"
Is it a 'thank you for prepping my room' or 'please clean my room today'? If you tip post cleaning, it's likely going to someone else the next day. Many hotels now only do housekeeping on demand. How do employees feel about this - do they miss the tips or are they happy for a less stressful workday?...
Florida Gov. Ron DeSantis is planning to raise money for former President Donald Trump in the coming weeks, putting into action the commitment he made at a meeting with Trump last month to help his former rival for the 2024 Republican presidential nomination, according to two people familiar with the matter....
Why would anyone in Texas care about him? If whatever Texas' governor came to Florida, I would be like, "Who is this guy?? And why is anybody listening to him?"
When growing up my parents taught me to stand up to bullies. (We're talking about verbal abuse and manipulation, not physical bullying.) Following that advice as a kid led to mixed results yet it's stuck with me into my adult years....
I think I could help with this since I lived with an adult bully for about 1.5 which was a horrible experience, but I took it as a major learning lesson and promised myself that I would be a support and advocate for victims. So, here's what I learned.
Bullies are predators that look for what they think would be the easiest victim. They need to bully because they are extremely insecure, yet the bullying makes them feels superior in their heads. So, know that their weakness is insecurity, and they see a weakness in you. Using this info, you can work on their weakness to show you're not an easy target by protecting yours, and they won't get the sense of superiority out of bullying you.
Tips:
Do not play their game. They are the experts on this. Once you recognize someone is trying to bully you, know that they have started to work on you for a while now. Thus, if a bully throws you the ball, don't throw it back. Put it down. If they start a conversation with you that you don't want to have, say, "That's interesting, but I'm focused on something else right now."
Have very solid boundaries. Know what they are, verbally state them when appropriate, and stick to them 100%. They will search for where they can violate this, then capitalize on it, so do not let one thing slide.
Be grounded in your truth. Bullies will try to define reality for you. For example, "It's not that they are a abusive assholes because they're so insecure; it's that you are weak and deserve it or they're just playing." Nope. That's their delusion. Stay planted to your reality. It may help to write it down as a reminder for yourself.
Greyrock. Greyrock. Greyrock. That means to have no noticeable emotional reactions to any of their bullying. They feed off of reaction, whether it is good or bad. Do not show that they are affecting you in any sense. This makes them feel insecure, so their strategy of bullying you isn't working.
I-statements. You can say whatever you want as long as you don't mention anyone else by name or pronoun. So rather than saying, "You are insulting me." Say, "I feel uncomfortable right now." That is 100% acceptable and no one can argue how you feel since it's generally considered a jerk move. If anyone does argue your feelings, they're gaslighting you because they're telling you to trust their reality over yours.
As adults, they are playing a social game. They are trying to paint you as the bad guy, paint themselves as either strong or the victim (depends on the immediate setting, but think of how Trump is always either strong or a victim), isolate you, then creating alliances with others to start bullying you, whether the others know it or not. For me, this is the hardest of the areas to work on, but basically I remember that they are focused on the immediate moment. You need to play the long game. Stay stable and don't start with gossip, trash talking, or whatever. You need to demonstrate through your behaviors that you are not what the bully is telling everyone else you are. Also, do not believe anything the bully tells you about others. That is a manipulation strategy. For example, they may tell you that, "Person A is such a bully to Person B." This will trigger your sensitivity, get you to isolate from Person A, and start trusting the bully a little more since they are apparently against bullying. It's all a game they play. As long as you understand that they are delusional, you can accept to not trust a thing they say, even is many of their statements are littered with half-truths. Remember, everything they say has a manipulative purpose. Eventually, the bully will either get sick of trying to bully you and it not be effective, or they may actually lash out enough for you to take more concrete steps, such as legal, contacting HR, or whatever.
Do not speak poorly of anyone else. They will use this to trash your reputation with them, especially if it is something that other person is vulnerable about. They can prompt it by going, "I don't mean to be mean, but I'm kind of concerned with Person A's health...they just look a bit too overweight." You, trying to relate, respond, "Yeah, they do seem a bit overweight, and they're not helping themselves eating Chic-Fil-A for lunch. Maybe they don't know how to eat healthier." Later on, they go to Person A, "Hey, I want you to know that I am just trying to be a caring person and don't like any drama, but I thought it was rude what someone told me about you...Lettruhut was talking crap about how you shouldn't be eating Chic-Fil-A because of your size." Person A then gets justifiably offended and can even confirm the half-truth by coming up to you and asking, "Hey, do like Chic-Fil-A?" You unconsciously remembering the previous conversation respond, "No, it's too much for me." That's it. You just confirmed what the bully implied.
Do NOT share anything personal with the bully. If the bully comes up to you and says, "You know, I feel bad about taking home pens from work sometimes. It feels like I'm stealing." Do not try to console them by being vulnerable, such as, "I don't think that's a big deal. One time I really needed just a few staples, so I took some home from the office because I didn't need a whole box." In this example, you just admitted to the bully that you steal. The bully will immediately start spreading that info unto others. They may tell a manager, "I'm a bit concerned that Lettruhout is stealing because I saw them taking home office supplies. I'll show you what I mean at the next meeting by pretending that I'm doing it, you play along, and we can see how they react." Next meeting comes along, "Hey everyone, I want to know what you guys think...I'm a bit embarrassed about this, but I've been taking home pens from the office, and I wanted to know if you think that's a big deal?" The manager says, "I mean, something so insignificant, that's fine. If it were a computer, then of course that's a problem though. What do you think Lettruhut?" You responded, "Oh yeah. One time I took home a few staples. I was really nervous about it, but I'm glad you guys are sensible. I was actually worried that you guys would see it as stealing." Boom! You just admitted that you stole, while the bully has an alibi for what they told you they stole. When you get punished for it and try to accuse the bully of it, you now look like a liar as well, and no one will believe whatever you say about the bully from there on out. Anyway, as long as you don't share anything personal with them, they will see that you're not an easy target and prey around for someone else.
If you see them bully someone else, become a source of support for them. Don't tell them what you saw, but ask them to tell you how they experienced it and be a supportive sense of validation grounded on reality. This shows them that you are healthy and also that their recollection and interpretation of events are valid.
Know that as long as you are not dealing with a lethally dangerous psychopath, you have already won. You have won because they are playing an antagonistic game based on fantasy. You are living a collaborative life based on reality. Since you are aiming to be collaborative, you limit the amount of antagonism you create. In fact, it is others that create the antagonism which you may fall victim to. However, their entire lives are antagonistic, so they are more likely to mess up and have a longgggg history of terrible relationships and records. Being based on reality, you've already won. Say there are two people with cancer. One accepts it and receives medical treatment. The other denies it,calls the doctor a liar, and convinces everyone they'll be fine. The former is the one with the better chances of surviving. Meanwhile, the latter may get some sympathy and cause the doctor some headache, but they're going to die sooner than the former one. So no matter what anyone thinks, you will win because you are based on reality.
Of course, if this is a person threatening your safety, then you need to get authorities involved. Not only keep track of your interactions, but find a way to mount evidence. What I did with my bully when I was kicking them out of my life (a dangerous moment because they act more intensely since their about to lose their insecurity drug), I would put my phone on record and in my pocket so that I had evidence to share with people if I needed to. While that particular example wouldn't be admissible in court in my state, I could still share it with police, medical professionals, or lawyers so they know I am being truthful. In retrospect, I could have tricked them into giving me consent by starting the recording in my pocket, then saying, "So if what you're telling me is right, you wouldn't care if I recorded it?" They would have to respond, "No." Then I would go, "So I have your permission to record this?" They would say, "Yes," assuming you're not recording, so then you can say, "Ah, never mind. It's not worth it to go get my camera." Boom! Just got consent and bonus, they now think you believe their BS even more because you didn't follow through to get the camera.
I appreciate it very much, and I'm so sorry you were going through that! It wasn't your fault, everything they said were lies, and you were chosen because you are a wonderful person. Keep on keeping on! Don't forget to eat, and even if it 100% seems like it won't, it does get better. Feel free to reach out to me ❤️
Edit: Fun Fact: My username is a reference to me coming back to myself after the abuse 🤪
There's like a 95% chance I would respond similarly to the one in blue without an iota of awareness that it might come off as rude. Instead, I would probably feel proud of my authenticity and accuracy.
I, too, have no fear of dying. There's absolutely nothing to worry about. I won't even know I'm dead. The only thing that is a bit scary is the process of dying, especially if it is something that's really drug out, like a terminal disease. Then, I have to think about it for the rest of my life. Otherwise, if it just happens in a flash, like a nuclear bomb, I won't even be aware I died.
They say it's a picture of atoms, but what are the atoms: the glowing yellow balls or the entire meatball including the darker red? If it's the meatballs, then why do some have apparently two nuclei?...
Benjamin Netanyahu has vowed that Israel will stand alone and “fight with our fingernails” in defiance of US threats to further restrict arms deliveries if Israeli forces proceeded with an offensive on the southern Gazan city of Rafah....
Mine is similar: to make the world a better place, you have to be better than the world. It gives me motivation and guidance when in crappy situations where I feel like fighting back, but doing so would only continue the cycle of anger.
Congrats on hearing BB King! The dude is a legend, basically creating a whole new genre. Imagine making music so good that it becomes a genre. That's BB King.
I use Proton. But I continue to run into more and more websites and services that detect my VPN and refuse my connection, or just run literally 40 captchas in a row until I just give up....
It obscures your IP so that sites don't know who you are by that, but really, they can just fingerprint your browser if you're not addressing that too.
You can present your location to a site as being from any where the VPN has a server. Say you want to watch something that is only available to users in Canada, but you live in Mexico. You can use the VPN to present yourself to the site as being in Canada and watch it. Unfortunately, some sites are blocking content from being accessed by known VPN IP addresses. I think Netflix is one. Frustrating to me, lemmy.world doesn't let anyone post or comment while using a VPN, though I understand that it's for valid security and admin purposes, such as to reduce CASM material.
More importantly, it encrypts your data between you and the VPN. That means that no one between you two knows what the info you're transmitting means. This includes your ISP that likely collects/sells your data or could report it to authorities. Additionally, it protects you from people that can join your wifi and steal your data that way, say at a public wifi like a coffee shop.
Personally, I use a VPN as much as possible, especially when I'm connected to any wifi outside of my home. In fact, I will absolutely not access security-sensitive sites (e.g. bank accounts, credit cards, etc.) on public wifi without using my VPN.
Same. My ex told everyone that I was abusing her so that they wouldn't believe me when I started coming out about how she was abusing me. I'm so happy to have gotten her out of my life. I feel bad for the two guys married to her sisters. They're nothing but punching bags for those monsters.
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If it were me, I would love it if my coworker would tell me I stunk. Otherwise, I would internalize why no one wants to be around me and think I'm shitty. My preference would be for them to pull me aside somewhere private and directly tell me.
Share away! It's hard to come up with questions about an experience I've never had. What stuck out to you? What was different between your expectations and experiences? What do you think most people don't understand about AmTrak travel?
This is one of my top two reasons for not using Windows. Wth can I not put the panel where ever the hell I want?? So freaking frustrating how they control what you can do just in terms of user preferences. Or like, why can't I click on whatever window I want regardless of a prompt being open. "Oh you took a screen shot and want to save it, but you need to look at the site to remember the name? lol, fu." Unbearable.
Fyi, the other top reason is that they shove a bunch of garbage in that I don't want, like that Cortana bs they did a few years back. No thank you.
What vegetables and fruits do you wish were commonly available in the US?
How do you experience eye contact?
I'm still on my journey of understanding the differences between autism and other. My focus today is eye contact, so let's have a discussion!...
UK to get at least 25 new warships due to defence spending rise ( news.sky.com )
The defence secretary said 22 ships are "already in the system" and committed to three new ships for the Royal Marines, with the possibility of three more....
What is the weirdest flavoured thing you've had?
Was it good?
Australia’s richest woman seeks removal of her portrait from exhibition ( www.cnn.com )
I wonder how it affected traffic ( lemmy.world )
Berlin artist Simon Weckert used 99 phones and a handcart to create a "virtual traffic jam" on Google Maps
18+ Obesity is morally wrong and should be illegal in my opinion
The reason why I think obesity is morally wrong and should be illegal is because obesity is putting up a big burden on our health care system. There are alot of nurses who get injured on the job because they had to move a 300lb morbidly obese person to the other room. Which is morally wrong because they're injurying nurses...
What's the most embarrassing thing about you?
Sucks to suck! ( lemmy.world )
Found in the wild in Tennessee
So Hip ( lemmy.world )
The larger the nonprofit, the more likely it is run by a white man, says new Candid diversity report ( apnews.com )
White men are most likely to lead the largest, best-funded nonprofits, while women of color tend to lead the organizations with the fewest financial resources, according to a study from the nonprofit data research organization Candid....
Most unique looking celebrities?
I'm working on a side project studying variations in human facial features. It's been helpful to study celebrity faces because it's easy to find numerous reference photos. I've actually got a fairly good range of weird looking white men, turns out Hollywood is pretty flush with those, but it's been harder to find unique looking...
The state of things ( i.imgur.com )
What, like Pandora, Spotify, etc is out there that I could add music I have on my phone/etc?
I've been using one of the Pandora services, but I've been getting a little annoyed with the stations (which I presume I would get the same annoyance from other services, too). So I'd like to be able to create a station and add songs that I own and that wouldn't normally be in that station. (And I know you can add artists to the...
Wish for your greatest desire ( lemmy.world )
It's not fair. ( lemmy.world )
Either way, I'm getting super drunk. ( lemmy.world )
Do you leave a tip for housekeeping if you're only staying one night in a hotel?
Is it a 'thank you for prepping my room' or 'please clean my room today'? If you tip post cleaning, it's likely going to someone else the next day. Many hotels now only do housekeeping on demand. How do employees feel about this - do they miss the tips or are they happy for a less stressful workday?...
Anon looks up Danish cuisine ( sh.itjust.works )
Biden Bans Chinese Bitcoin Mine Near U.S. Nuclear Missile Base ( www.nytimes.com )
Ron DeSantis is planning to raise money for Donald Trump in Florida and Texas, AP sources say ( apnews.com )
Florida Gov. Ron DeSantis is planning to raise money for former President Donald Trump in the coming weeks, putting into action the commitment he made at a meeting with Trump last month to help his former rival for the 2024 Republican presidential nomination, according to two people familiar with the matter....
Alternative to bad parental advice: "Stand up to bullies"?
When growing up my parents taught me to stand up to bullies. (We're talking about verbal abuse and manipulation, not physical bullying.) Following that advice as a kid led to mixed results yet it's stuck with me into my adult years....
Man gets boat painted on fence meant to hide boat. ( www.nbcnews.com )
A smooth opener ( lemmy.world )
Can someone explain what the various parts of this picture of atoms are? ( lemmy.world )
They say it's a picture of atoms, but what are the atoms: the glowing yellow balls or the entire meatball including the darker red? If it's the meatballs, then why do some have apparently two nuclei?...
‘We will fight with our fingernails’ says Netanyahu after US threat to curb arms ( www.theguardian.com )
Benjamin Netanyahu has vowed that Israel will stand alone and “fight with our fingernails” in defiance of US threats to further restrict arms deliveries if Israeli forces proceeded with an offensive on the southern Gazan city of Rafah....
The only way things can get better is by acknowledging that things aren't as good as they could be
6 May 2024 ( sh.itjust.works )
There are songs we've gone our whole lives without hearing and the best song we've ever heard might still be out there.
What VPN are you using?
I use Proton. But I continue to run into more and more websites and services that detect my VPN and refuse my connection, or just run literally 40 captchas in a row until I just give up....
List of countries that cannot make a PSN account, following the Helldivers 2 controversy. ( programming.dev )
The censored one is probably Niger...
What is your purpose?
What is you purpose right now?
Your body is completely dark except for the 1 molecule outside layer that light hits.
What's the most damning rumor ever spread about you?
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Internal dynamics during a hyperfocus session ( lemmy.world )
Image: They Don't Know meme template....
Those of you that have AmTrak'd cross-country (East-West/West-East), how was your experience?
Did you enjoy it? Was it worth it? How were you able to pull it off?
Linux Salesman ( lemmy.world )