upon further thought i think this article would be better framed as a psa:
you should feel comfortable asking your long term committed partner their legal name (or being told/finding out organically), and itās not toxic to do so.
there are plenty of reasons you might want to know such as:
filing a missing person report in an emergency
visiting your partner in the hospital in an emergency
bailing them from jail
add them as a beneficiary on insurance and things
seeking legal advice in case of a dispute (as noted in the article)
notifying authorities when you or others may be endangered by an abusive partner (as noted in the article)
all of this is a totally valid reason to know your partner on that level, and no, this doesnāt mean ātrans people are above the law.ā i do appreciate the struggle that brought Them to express it so, but i kind of hate that OOP framed it in such a fraught manner.
So in the case of well meaning laws and judicial systems, there is a protection from harm in the system.
Problem is, that still isnāt a good way of protecting from harm, and more about getting money for harm already done. (as exampled in the article.)
If your ex is abusing you and you donāt know their legal name, then it shouldnāt matter. You know their name - you know to tell people. and if youāre thinking of suing them, I imagine a few steps before that would be informing the people in your community.
I donāt know a perfect solution to stop abuse, or similar things, but not knowing legal names, is not going to make an actual difference.
Iām surprised one wouldnāt know the legal name of their partner, even if trans. Anything formal requires a real name, there wasnāt a single case I was able to get to know someone without revealing my formal name in one way or another.
They donāt follow their own odd rules in the other editorials they wrote.
See: āourā āusā āyouā ??? āThe point of the video is that if a conservative is nice to you, youāre being groomed. According to Ian and this Xitter user, Nazis will go around social media debating leftists, intentionally hurting our feelings to make us pay attention, and then turning around and being nice to recruit us. Thatās pretty much the whole point of the video. And I donāt doubt that this happened to that Xitter user. Iām very willing to believe that there are groups of nazis who prey on people like this.ā
Iām not trying to bother someone, but they come out the gate very combative assuming everyone is going to intentionally be a bigoted piece of crap.
As far as the article, I donāt think I could be with someone who would literally never tell me their legal name.
