@LikeItOrLumpIt pretty sure there's a happy medium there. My family taught me to always expect the absolute worst (not just plan for it, which I do, but expect it 🙄) and I've had to disown friends who are so toxicly positive that they can't even consider something going wrong.
I think "realistic while hoping for the best" might be the healthy target.
@LikeItOrLumpIt I try to look at things logically and figure out what's likely to happen but then hope it'll be better than that. Unless the logical thing is already good.
People don't tend to understand probability or that luck isn't actually a thing. Like, flipping a coin and getting heads ten times in a row doesn't mean you're due to get tails soon. There's still always a 50% chance.
That's why someone saying something bad is going to happen because lots of bad things have happened to them in the past isn't true. Unless witch's curses have become a thing 👀
@LikeItOrLumpIt unless it's something involving people's behavior. Then you have to take past behavior in account just as basic self preservation. But if you're flipping a coin or doing something else with two possible outcomes of equal probability, heck yeah!
@LikeItOrLumpIt sometimes you've got to protect yourself. It's why people cut off contact with abusive family members or eventually give up on relapsing addicts. Someone who keeps doing the same thing and expecting a different result is just sending themself into an early grave 🙃